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10 dumb reasons I'm afraid of having a second baby

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It could be because I'm so weak, both physically and emotionally. That's why I tell myself I'm afraid of having a second baby. I found the first year of motherhood so unfathomably difficult, I fill to the brim with self-doubt when I imagine adding a second child to the equation. These are just 10 of the undermining excuses my my anxiety comes up with when I think about a second pregnancy: School is expensive.  Tuition for two kids costs  twice  as much. Like, If kids are crops and school is soil and money is fertilizer... I'm confused by my own analogy. I’m old.  I thought I was old when I first got pregnant at 37, but now I'm 40. Being pregnant was fun and easy back then, three whole years ago, but now? Who knows what might fall apart. If a pregnancy is officially "geriatric" at 35, am I seriously playing with fate at 40? And I keep getting older; I might be 41 before this theoretical baby is born! I only have two arms.  Logic could console...

This is 40: The weird feeling that people are watching me

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September 5 It was also a weird feeling that time Mamie and I shared screen space with Anna Faris and Chris Pratt. No, I'm not paranoid, except that I might be. I'm adjusting to a strange shift in my new writing career wherein thousands of people are looking at what I write. Specifically, I am referring to an essay I wrote for Cosmo about Mamie's name this week:  I Love My Kid's Unusual Name . As I write this, less than 48 hours after it went live, the article has had 94,000 views. That's not viral, but it's getting more attention than anything else I've ever written.  I have my theories about why: people want to know the name so they click; people love to talk about their own names. That's totally rational, and it does not make me break out into a sweat right now.  However, when I saw the views surging into the tens of thousands overnight, I did break out into a sweat, fear for the safety of my family, and question my selfish ambition! St...